B.M.W.B # 40 – Taking the Lead

So much of parenting is about adjusting and re-adjusting the limits and letting little ones take more of a lead.

A couple of weeks ago we did some awesome crayon art – Bounce was very upset that the art was hung on the family art wall instead of in his room because he did it. So I promised more crayon art in the holidays. I do love the holidays we are planning to try a few crafty things this holidays!

This time I gave them smaller canvases and freer reign. I still maintained a firm grip on the hot glue gun but they selected it all and then we went for launch.

One of the things I can really struggle with as a mama is the control thing. I let me boys dress themselves and when it comes time to cover books at the beginning of the year I let Flip make most of the choices – these things are both easy and difficult for me – easy because it takes the hassle and drama out of forcing ‘good clothes’ or nicely cut out sensible pictures but hard because you send a stack of books to school with badly cut out weird choices on them – for me these are small sacrifices my pride has to make in order to allow my boys age appropriate choices. Choices that make them think about what they like and trust that they can do it.

Do you find giving your children more decision-making opportunities easy or difficult?

Also I find so much of the time I find mama’s doing great things with their kids – I wondered if you would be keen for me to do a couple of link-ups where people can put in posts of ways they have been more intentional about parenting or cool and simple activities that have allowed them to intentionally invest time with their kids – would you be keen to read these kind of posts from other people too?

This year I am making more of a conscious effort to have quality moments with my boys. B.M.W.B (becoming the mama I want to be)  is my way of recording and hopefully inspiring other mama’s too. Please inspire me with the little moments you are snatching with your little people OR with ideas I could do with mine. If you have blogged about it please leave a comment so we can all visit and encourage each other. 

Simple. Achievable. Intentional: becoming the mama I want to be.


5 responses

  1. LOVE this !
    My little Tsunami has tried and tested me as a parent! She has been feeding (breakfast) and dressing herself since she was 2, whereas Philosopher still asks me to get his clothes at 7 ~ seriously ~ ! And I thought it was a boy thing, obviously it is a Philosopher thing

    1. no mine also want to have things done for them quite frequently too!

  2. Fabulous art.

  3. I’d love to know how you did the crayon art!! I find I’m relatively relaxed about letting the kids do things themselves… My 10 year old walks to the shops by herself to get the odd grocery I’ve forgotten, my 7 year old helps me with the cooking and the two of them have occasionally made breakfast by themselves (with me keeping a cautious eye out as they use things like the frying pan or the saucepan). It is a good thing for them to learn to be responsible early but I guess keeping a weather eye out in the background until you’re confident they can do it themselves without an accident is good. I know a few mums who won’t let their kids walk to the shops or use the oven etc… I guess it’s what you feel comfortable letting them do at what age!

    1. We just hot glue-d the crayons wherever they liked and heated them up with a heat gun for embossing but a hairdryer works too – and we moved the canvas around to get it to flow in different directions

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