B.M.W.B # 43 – Team Work

This week I want to talk about being the kind of team I hope to be. As you’ll know I’ve just had an extended weekend with The Atlas in Melbourne, and while who would turn down a wonderful city break it is much more than that to me.

As a mama of boys I am very aware that they are watching me all the time. Seeing how I talk to The Atlas, how I talk about him, the tone, the volume the words. I am showing them what they will grow up to expect from a wife (and I do hope they have one, one day a long, long time away!!!). I am setting the tone for their understanding of how women feel, behave and think about and towards men.

While in some ways this freaks me out I also think this is something I need to take seriously. The Atlas is an amazing man and a man very deserving of my honour, support, love and delight.

Sometimes he comes home to a grumpy, huffy person I am ashamed to say, and it’s not just him I let down by that I also let my boys down.

Getting away together for special couple time is such a treat for our relationship but it is also about being the mama I want to be. A mama who loves her man and puts that relationship first.

When Mama and Papa are on the same team, hand in hand, back to back and laughing together then we are giving our boys a wonderful launching pad and a safe landing-place.

This week being the best mama I can be has meant taking time to delight in the relationship that made this possible and the relationship that will, I hope and pray, continue in a healthy, happy way long after our babies have flown the nest.

This year I am making more of a conscious effort to have quality moments with my boys. B.M.W.B (becoming the mama I want to be)  is my way of recording and hopefully inspiring other mama’s too. 

Simple. Achievable. Intentional: becoming the mama I want to be.

(I realise it is probably very unfashionable and very unPC to talk about being a ‘good’ wife but actually I just think that is a shameful measure of our culture. I have married a good man and I want to be a good woman to match.)

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12 responses

  1. This is so lovely, Miriam – I’m so glad you got the chance to go away and have some special time with your hubby. It’s so important to not lose sight of where it all began, and your boys will have such a healthy view of relationships to look forward to.

    Totally agree about being a good wife for a good husband – that’s what a good relationship deserves.

    1. Thanks Ange. I want my boys memories to be rich with the sound of our laughter

    1. and go the support team who made it possible!!

  2. That is so special to see your relationship and the love that you have and its such a great thing for your boys to see!

    1. I really hope it is 🙂

  3. This is a lovely blog post Miriam. You are so right- the best gift you can give your boys is a loving relationship with their father and it provides a template that they will use in their future relationships.

    1. Thanks Jan – you always say such encouraging things.

  4. oooh yes. Close to the bone. I’m very aware that I’m not always the person I should be to my hubby. Eeeks. Overwhelming but thank God for his grace, I need it!

  5. I always say the feminist burnt their bras in vain when it comes to me!
    I WANT to be a wife and mother and I’m CONTENT being a homemaker!
    LOVE this post xxx

    1. all I can say is the feminists who burnt their bras obviously didn’t need support the way I do!

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